Ever been blindsided?
A story my girlfriend shared with me years ago tickles me to this day. When she and her siblings were kids they got into a tussle and she got the upper hand over her little brother. Their Dad entered the ruckus and told her to knock it off. She shot right back, telling her father that he wasn't being fair and then broke into tears. Dad disappeared for a moment and then returned. My friend went all soft and vulnerable, know that Dad had returned to give her a hug of support. Instead, Dad popped her upside her head and reminded her that he was the father and she would treat him, and his words, with respect.
Her utter shock at what had just happened left her, as she says, blindsided.
Why does her story tickle me? Deja vu. My clarity is crystal clear when it comes to going all soft and vulnerable inside only to be blindsided by a pop upside the head.
Maybe it's "ha ha" funny when it happens to my friend Patty. But it is more the "nervous giggle while I blush vividly in embarrassment" funny when it happens to me.
Blindsided is the sweet honor of bonding with your infant while he nurses only to have him decide to take a bite.
Blindsided is the podiatrist working on our son's broken foot who takes one look at my heels, smiles, and says, "Mrs. Gilstrap, it's women like you who keep me in business." I smile back and tell him that heels are like flip flops to me. And then, that very evening while filling the car with gas, I literally fall off of my heels.
Blindsides might be funny, they might be embarrassing, they might even be hurtful. Hey, I don't want to fall off of my heels in how I live my life - not any more than I absolutely have to. I don't want to fall off my heels as a wife, mother, grandmother, friend, or ministry leader. I want to stand tall in my heels for Jesus.
The first verse in Proverbs 14 tells us: "The wise woman builds her house, but with her own hands the foolish one tears hers down."
Could this verse pertain to our families? Yes! The New Century Version of this verse reads: "A wise woman strengthens her family, but a foolish woman destroys hers by what she does."
The thought of being a foolish woman chills me to my core. I want to eliminate the blindsides and, when I can't, I want to make sure I learn from them.
Ecclesiastes 7:14 says, "When times are good, be happy; but when times are bad, consider this: God has made the one as well as the other." I know that some of the pops upside my head are intentional and from my loving heavenly Father. I don't like them but I can understand them.
It's the blindsides that I create or can avoid that eat me up.
Wisdom, Lord; I pray for Your wisdom.
Posted on Mon, March 23, 2015
by Aliesa Gilstrap